BREAKING UP

“You will be whole… there is a precious jewel within you that was never crushed. Cherish it. Cleanse it. Bathe it in the river of Love.”     ---Starhawk

Humanity has been
Breaking up with the patriarchy
For decades
 
There comes a point
In all break ups
When the list of grievances is long
When defensiveness is the norm
When tensions only escalate
When resentments become
The common ground
And every effort made
To get back to
A place of harmony
Fails
 
There comes a point
In all break ups
When the wisest course of action
Requires the greatest courage
 
There comes a point
In all break ups
When the ending becomes the beginning
 
This is the point of transformation
This is the point of sacred evolution
This is the point of opportunity
 
Humanity has arrived at this point
 
Courage, my friends, courage
 
It is time to recognize that
Despite its power ending
The patriarchy
Is unyielding
 
It is time to accept that
To relentlessly fight
For patriarchal change
Is fruitless
 
Which leaves us in the Bardo
The In-Between
Where it is dark
And we are unmoored
Unrecognizable even to ourselves
Because the patriarchy shaped us all
And even its death throes
Impacts us still
Catalyzing this collective identity crisis
Who are we now?
Who will we become?
 
Courage, my friends, courage
The beginning is in the ending
 
There is a surrender that is righteous
A surrender that allows the focus to shift
From fighting to healing
From killing to creating
From destroying to rebuilding
 
This is the road less travelled
This is the journey of Higher Consciousness
And it is now solidifying
Beneath our feet
Showing us the way forward
If we but choose to
Set foot upon this path
 
Despite our seeming lack of control
We have the agency
To recognize the fact that under the patriarchy
We are all wounded
​We are all traumatized

We have the agency to ignore
The patriarchy’s habitual Siren calls
And break the endless mental loops that
Limit our capacity for Love and Community
 
We have the agency
To embrace this
Once in a lifetime
Cosmic opportunity
To create light from darkness
By employing the  
The greatest healing balm of all
Forgiveness
 
Forgive everything
Choose a fresh start
Choose to live in the good reality
Choose to be a maker, a shaper
Of this new reality
Where LOVE is the guide
Love of Self AND Love of Other
 
Let it all go
And know that
Every time you falter
Every time you get stuck
Every time you fall down
Every time you lose your way
Because the rage is overwhelming
And the despair debilitating
And the anger depressing
And the resistance frustrating
You have the agency
To find your way back to The Path
 
This next part of the journey
Is not about being right
​Or being perfect
It is about course correction
Because we learn by making mistakes
And then trying again
and then again
​and again
It is about course correction
Because we have the agency
To take the gut-wrenching pain
Of breaking up
And transform it into the fuel needed
To propel us forward
 
It is time to turn the shit to compost
It is time to take the frayed ends
Of the cords that the patriarchy
Used to bind us
And tie them together
So we can weave a new vision
A collective vision
In which there is truly
a seat at the table for everyone
 
We have the agency
The path is before us
Courage, my friends, courage
The beginning is in the ending